• It all started one ordinary day. I decided to run errands and, feeling a bit adventurous, made a stop at the adult toy store. I was browsing through the shop, looking for something fun for myself, when I noticed someone else in the store…. a man who immediately caught my attention. He was incredibly attractive, undeniably sexy, and had that air of confidence that’s hard to ignore.

    We exchanged pleasantries and went about browsing, but the chemistry was instant and impossible to ignore. We chatted some more, casually but with an undertone of flirtation that neither of us could resist. After checking out with my toys, I turned to J and asked if he wanted to go outside with me.

    Once outside, he stood there, his truck door open, something just took over. I walked over, pulled his pants down, and started giving him a blowjob right there in the parking lot. It was wildly spontaneous, completely unplanned and thrilling, something I NEVER thought I would do but I just went with it! 

    Afterward, J asked to go to lunch, we were off to lunch. Over wings and tequila shots, we got to know each other. To my surprise, we had mutual friends, and the conversation flowed naturally. After lunch, J walked me to my car, chivalrous and unexpected. In a moment of boldness and desire, I opened the back door of my car, got in, pulled down my pants (I was wearing no underwear), and he proceeded to go down on me. It was intense. It felt amazing.

    That was, hands down, one of the most spontaneous days of my life. But to understand why it happened, it helps to know a bit more about me…

    I grew up with what many would call a typical life. A few boyfriends in high school, but nothing particularly too sexual or adventurous. After graduating, I moved to Denver and eventually married a man I was with for nearly 25+ years. We had two amazing children and built a respectable, middle-class life. Our sex life was routine, lacking excitement or experimentation. I was open to sharing, to exploring, to indulging fantasies with my partner who wasn’t interested in the same.

    Over the years, I had plenty of fantasies. I even attended a toy party and bought a few things, but never really used them. I didn’t feel safe enough to express what I really wanted, not without being judged.

    But with J…. 

    From the moment we met, I made a decision: I would be open and honest about everything - my desires, my fantasies, all of it. And what I found was that he matched my honesty with his own. Because we began our connection in such a bold and sexual way, it set the stage for raw, vulnerable, and judgment-free conversations from the very beginning.